January 17, 2020

Saying It and Meaning It: Autistics Versus Neurotypicals

EXAMPLE

NEUROTYPICAL SAYS

NEUROTYPICAL MEANS

AUTISTIC SAYS

AUTISTIC MEANS

“You aren’t listening to me”

“You aren’t listening to me”

I am so angry at you that I am breaking all social rules and speaking to you directly.

“You aren’t listening to me”

The words I am saying, you are not listening to.

“It’s cold in your office”

“It’s cold in your office”

Adjust the thermostat to make it warmer.

“It’s cold in your office”

It’s cold in your office (but I am not expecting you to do anything).

“When you get a minute, can you do (insert thing)? No rush.”

“When you get a minute, can you do (insert thing)? No rush.”

Drop everything and do this now.

“When you get a minute, can you do (insert thing)? No rush.”

Feel free to do this whenever you have time. I do not need it now.

“Can you give me some honest feedback on (thing they’ve done/made/wo rked on)?”

“Can you give me some honest feedback on (thing they’ve done/made/wor ked on)?”

Please say only positive things, regardless of how you really feel.

“Can you give me some honest feedback on (thing they’ve done/made/work ed on)?”

Give me honest feedback. My feelings won’t be hurt.

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